5 Quotes Regarding Child Marriage

In the 8 months I’ve been posting about child marriage here are some of the memorable people and quotes that have struck a cord with me.

FORWARD – Foundation for Women’s Health Research and Development.

I had the pleasure of interviewing two associates from the organisation, Ambassador Gavin Weston and Events and Special Projects Coordinator Naomi Reid.

Child marriage quote from FORWARD

Quote courtesy FORWARD

Please visit Forward’s website and check out the amazing work they are doing.

Peris Tobiko – First Maasai woman elected to Kenyan Parliament.

Quote regarding child marriage

Quote courtesy Global Press Institute

To appreciate the significance of this win for Mrs. Tobiko, you have to understand how difficult it was for her to get to where she is. She grew up in a culture where girl’s education was not valued and it was normal for parents to marry off their daughters at a very young age. During the election she had to put up with dirty tricks from competing male Parliament hopefuls. Read more about Peris Tobiko’s election.

Girls Not Brides – Global Partnership to End Child Marriage

Quote on Child marriage

GirlsNotBrides.org

Child marriage is a global problem that cuts across countries, cultures, religions and ethnicity. It denies girls their rights to health, to live in security and to choose when and whom they marry. It cuts short girls’ education and traps them, their families and their communities in a cycle of poverty.

Learn more about Girls Not Brides here.

Gavin Weston – Author of the novel Harmattan.

Quote on Child Marriage by Gavin Weston

Quote by Author Gavin Weston

Harmattan is a novel that takes us into the mind of a 12-year-old girl who is forced into marriage after the death of her mother. The novel serves as a vehicle for raising awareness of child marriage. As an Ambassador for FORWARD, Mr. Weston promotes the campaign at book signings and speaks at conferences regarding child marriage.

Read more about Harmattan here. In case you missed it check out my interview with Mr. Weston here.

Wanjala Wafula – Founder of The Coexist Initiative

Quote on child marriage

Quote from Wanjala Wafula

The Coexist Initiative is a Kenyan community-based organisation that works alongside boys and men to eliminate all forms of gender-based violence. Coexist was awarded the African Achievers Awards 2012, celebrating the successes of engaging men and boys as a means to empower young girls.

Check out my article on The Coexist Initiative.

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International Day to End Obstetric Fistula

On  May 23, 2013, the world will be marking the first-ever International Day to End Obstetric Fistula, as recently designated by the United Nations General Assembly. This year also marks the 10th anniversary of the Campaign to End Fistula, which was launched by UNFPA, in collaboration with a wide range of partners.

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The Campaign is currently active in more than 50 countries in Africa, Asia, the Arab states and Latin America. Over that decade, UNFPA has directly supported over 34,000 women and girls to receive surgical fistula treatment, while partner agencies have supported thousands more.

Countries around the world mark fistula day with a variety of events intended to raise awareness of this severely neglected health and human rights tragedy, highlight progress made over the last decade, and generate new political and financial support for the global movement to end the condition. These events will include a special observance at the United Nations in New York, with the participation of fistula survivors, in addition to advocates and practitioners who have dedicated their careers to put an end to this devastating condition.

So what exactly is Fistula?

Fistulae are holes that are created between the vaginal wall and the bladder, and holes created between the vaginal wall and the rectum. Fistula is a childbirth injury caused by prolonged obstructed labor.

How are these holes formed?

These holes are formed as a result of pregnancy and child birth. Labor becomes  obstructed due to female genital mutilation (FGM), or by child marriage and early pregnancy.

What are the effects of Fistula?

Vesicovaginal fistula causes urinary incontinence and / or fecal incontinence due to rectovaginal fistula and related conditions, such as dermatitis. If nerves to the lower limbs are damaged, women may suffer from paralysis of the lower half of the body. Many victims of obstructed labor  in which the fistulae subsequently occur, will also have given birth to a stillborn baby.

What are the social effects of Fistula?

In spite of one’s best efforts to stay clean, the smell of leaking urine or feces is hard to eliminate and difficult to ignore. The dampness causes rashes and infections. The cleaning up is constant, and pain or discomfort may be continuous as well. The grief of losing a child and becoming disabled exacerbates the pain.

The injury leaves women with few opportunities to earn a living, and many have to rely on others to survive, or turn to begging or commercial sex. In some communities they are not allowed to have anything to do with food preparation and may be excluded from prayer or other religious observances. Some are abandoned by their husbands.

Facts and Stats about Fistula.

  • At least two million women live with fistula in developing countries, with about 100,000 new cases occurring each year. These figures are based only on the number of women who seek treatment.
  • The average cost of fistula treatment—including surgery, post-operative care and rehabilitation support—is $400, which is well beyond the reach of most women with the condition.
  • Fistula can be treated and women can have a normal life after treatment.
  • Fistula has virtually been eliminated in Europe and North America through improved obstetric care.

Read more and become involved by visiting my source sites Forward UK and Campaign to End Obstetric Fistula.

Profile of FORWARD UK with Naomi Reid

FORWARD – Foundation for Women’s Health, Research and Development.

Through FORWARD’s programs, young women and girls are educated in exercising their rights, and encouraged to take leadership roles in their society. FORWARD also educates the public on the physical and physiological effects of FGM and child marriage.

In part I of my profile on Forward UK, I had the pleasure of interviewing author and ambassador Gavin Weston.

Profile on ForwardUK part IIIn part II I chat with the dynamic Naomi Reid, Events and Special Projects Coordinator at FORWARD UK.

Profile on FORWARD UK with Ambassador Gavin Weston

FORWARD – Foundation for Women’s Health, Research and Development.

FORWARD was established in the United Kingdom in 1983 as a result of the raising number of problems caused by female genital mutilation (FGM).

ForwardUK logoFORWARD works with individuals, communities and organizations to eliminate FGM practices and provide support to affected women. Since it’s inception, FORWARD has since expanded its campaign to include other issues like fistula, child and forced marriages.

In part one of my profile on FORWARD, I had the pleasure of interviewing author Gavin Weston, writer of the remarkable novel Harmattan and Ambassador to FORWARD UK. Thank you Gavin it is a pleasure to interview you again. (Continue reading here.)

10Qs with Gavin Weston author of the remarkable novel Harmattan

An exclusive interview with @Gillianfx

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How long did it take you to write Harmattan?

On and off, almost six years.

How did you get into the mind of an 11-year-old Nigerian girl to portray her thoughts so believably?

I undertook a great deal of research, did a lot of checking in with my own daughter (who was 13 when I started writing the book) and basically tried hard to ‘inhabit’ my character Haoua. It was an emotionally draining process!

I cried and feared for our hero so many times during the story. What was your mood like during those times?

Given that most of the novel is based on fact (i.e. lots of true stories rolled into one) I was often angry when I was writing – or numb, or sad, or bewildered that such things are still possible in this day and age. But Haoua is, I think, a spirited, optimistic and somewhat defiant character, and that bolstered me (and her) through the process.

Did the characters keep you awake at night during the writing process?

I dreamed about the Boureima family often, like they were my own. I know these characters well. One or two scenes are based on my own dreams.

Is Harmattan based on any of your own experiences?

Just about everything in the book actually happened, but not all to one person. Some of the stories are based on my own experiences, others are from research. The road trip is based on a combination of a long car journey I did in Niger and one a friend did in Zambia. (He was a technician in a college there and did a favor for a friend.)

Have you allowed your children to read the story and what were their thoughts?

I have one daughter and one son. They’re both young adults now, and yes, they’ve both read the book and are very supportive (and embarrassingly proud) of me, as I am of them. The Irish father in the book has twin daughters who are based on my nieces, Katie and Hope.

Were you tempted to give the story a happy ending?

Not really, although the ending allows a certain amount of interpretation, I think. Realism was absolutely crucial for me, and the story kind of led me to that point. It was kind of like putting a puzzle together, because when I started writing the book I didn’t know that Haoua was going to end up in that situation. Lots of people have asked me to write a sequel, and a friend asked me to write an alternative ending wherein Haoua is adopted and goes to live in LA with a lovely family who give her a pony and a pink bicycle, but that was never going to happen. The last section of the book is a hard read, but it isn’t gratuitous. I’m not into that.

Were you able to locate your sponsored child; the inspiration for the story?

Sadly, no. We did try. It’s very common for young girls to be taken hundreds of miles away from their home villages. Many of them never see their families again. And of course, child marriage marks the end of their education, so the whole process is cyclical, extremely detrimental to families and communities and the cause of more poverty…which in turn often leads to child marriage! However, it seems that more and more young women and child mothers are breaking free from such servitude and starting afresh. This can only happen if support mechanisms are in place to help them, which is why it is crucial to help raise awareness and provide projects such as those that FORWARD UK have set up in Tanzania and elsewhere.

What do you think you would say to her if you found her?

Wow! That’s a tricky one! Ramatou would be 22 now. Possibly she’d be the mother of several children. What would I say…? What did I really offer her other than a few trinkets and letters and the chance to experience a few brief years of school? I think I’d say sorry. Sorry, because the little bit of cash I provided as part of the sponsorship scheme couldn’t protect her childhood. It’s not that I’m opposed to such schemes, but I do believe that NGOs have a duty of care towards all children with whom they engage. I’m not sure how we can fully protect such girls against child marriage, especially where poverty is rife, but we simply must find a way. Currently it’s estimated that 25,000 such marriages occur every day!

What do you hope readers would gain from reading Harmattan?

I hope that readers will find it to be a good read. (I wish I could say that I hope readers will enjoy it, and I do wish for that, but somehow it doesn’t seem appropriate.) I hope that those who did not previously realize that child marriage is a contemporary problem, a 21st Century problem, a real problem, will take action and add their voices to the growing international demand to end child marriage forever. And, I have to be honest I hope that readers will want to read more of my work.

Gavin Weston is a visual artist and writer who lives in his native Ireland and is a former aid worker in West Africa. He is also an ambassador for the organization Forward UK a foundation for Women’s Health Research and Development.

Gavin is currently working on his second novel Tin Town. You can follow him at @WestonOfTinTown on Twitter or visit his website at http://www.gavinwestonbooks.com